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The first step is warm coffee!

Let me start by saying that as a “busy” middle-aged wife, mom and a successful stylist of 20 years, why would I feel that I am not fulfilled.  What is my real passion if it’s not the fore mentioned? Why would I start over halfway through my life and how the heck will I find time to make it happen?

When I first thought there is more out there for me, I had no idea where to start looking.  You would think that looking within one’s self seems the most obvious choice but having no idea how to look within caused me some definite stress and concern.  How can you find the time to look within when you can’t keep the refrigerator stocked, laundry caught up, kids’ schedules straight, husband’s bookkeeping up to date, organize guests hair and nail appointments, volunteer for school and church events, house cleaned, entertain for family/friend events or even drink your coffee WARM??!! (Just to name a few!)

This is a concern shared by other women I have spoken with and it would seem they are experiencing a similar longing or drive to change.  I also feel as women there are more challenges awarded to us by society, including other women in ‘doing what you love’ ~vs~ ‘doing what you have to.’  How do we manage fulfillment, balance our current lives and still remain true to ourselves?  Clearly we cannot create more time.

What about simply using the word ‘NO’?  YIKES!  Who really likes that word anyway.  Our children seem to learn it awfully fast around the age of two, so why not use it on ourselves?  I’ve discovered that by simply saying ‘NO’ to a few things that were minimally important in my grand vision of the day, I managed to squeeze in a few minutes for at least a warm cup of coffee and time with my thoughts!

Starting this journey also meant sharing it with other women who might be experiencing similar questions in their lives.  Wanting more, knowing they are capable of more but unaware of how to achieve more without ‘upsetting the apple cart,’ so to speak.

Say ‘NO’ to something long enough to follow along, enjoy a warm cup of coffee and look within to find what you desire.